Why Boundaries Aren't Restrictions — and Curiosity Is What Makes Them Stick Last month we talked about awareness as a physical skill. About the gap between knowing yourself and actually changing — and how that gap isn't filled with more thinking. It's filled with something that lives in the body. This month, we go one step further. Because once you start building that awareness — once you're genuinely noticing your patterns, your responses, the information your body is sending — a question...

Why Knowing Yourself Isn't Enough — and What to Do Instead There's a version of self-awareness that feels like wisdom but functions like a holding pattern. You know your patterns. You can name your tendencies. You can even predict, with remarkable accuracy, exactly how you're going to react in a difficult moment — and then watch yourself do it anyway. Sound familiar? A few years ago, I was training with my Krav Maga coach and said, almost proudly, "I'm incredibly self-aware. I know my...

There comes a moment — sometimes subtle, sometimes undeniable — when your body stops responding the way it used to. The warm-up takes longer. Recovery isn’t automatic. That session that once energised you now leaves you flattened for days. And the temptation is to say: “I’m just getting older.” “I’m not as fit as I used to be.” “I can’t train like that anymore.” But that’s rarely the full story. Your body changing isn’t a sign you’re done. It’s a sign your physiology has shifted — and your...